Super Powers & Patience
When I first thought about writing this little spooktacular post I thought of all the cheeky little anecdotes I could write circling the subject of romance, Batman and Poison Ivy. Then, as the idea grew it's vines in my brain I thought better of it (don't worry I'll still sprinkle it and circle back. After all, we all know how much I love a good dose of glitter) mainly because I knew I could do better. The conversation could offer greater spiritual grounding and more importantly, 'Poison Ivy' deserves more.
I remember when I was 15 my mom said to me: " Michy, with all your love of luxury and fine tastes you'd better find yourself a man with money". Of course she said this with all the love in the world but I remember thinking to myself that this old fashioned way of thinking was just downright stupid and I quickly replied to her: " No mom, I'm going to make my own money because no one is going to tell me what I can or can not do" and I think I have been rebelling against her wishful statement ever since. (Stay with me, this will all make sense in a minute) Any close friend of mine will tell you that I've always claimedthat I don't want to be rescuedand that I want to be accompanied. I've always preferred the idea of being in a partnership, an everlasting buddy system, a power posse with someone to fight the good fight with. And then, about 2 years ago, my confidence in that search began to waver a little and I remember telling my roommate at the time and close friend that maybe I was over it and maybe I should surrender and just allow myself to be rescued. Then, without even missing a beat, she turned to me quickly and said: " No way girl, I think you're the one who's gunna rescue him". Then just like that, Stella got her groove back!
How does all this relate to Halloween and even more the subject of patience being a super power? Hear me out. I've wanted to be Poison Ivy for years and I will be completely transparent and say that as independent and confident as I sometimes can appear to be I am also a complete and total hopeless romantic (yes I know you can be both) and I've longed to do those silly Halloween couple dual dress ups but, alas, I seem to always find myself in the in between during most, if not all, holiday events. Therefore, solo disguises it is. I had been waiting for my Batman to play out my Poison Ivy Supervillainess fantasy. Shame, and quite the hypocritical contradiction huh?! Yet, as a villain set out to claim her power over men, with her first kiss to Batman his poison and her second his antidote, one could argue, in the battle of the sexes who, in fact, is rescuing who?
I think patience is a super power. Anyone can settle, lower the bar, pick just about anyone and do the things that society (and often biology) tell us we should be doing but I also think there's time for all that. Just the other day a friend of mine sent me a text: "Tell me again that it's OK for me not to be married /with children?" Ummmm ya! Of course it is! Of course those are beautiful milestones and life events and it is absolutely OK to want them. It is, after all, part of the human experience to share love, connect and create life but I have to ask: 'Where's the fire? Why are we running?' We race and compete, boast and post and then end up with our backs against the wall wondering how we ever got there in the first place. Comparison got us there and THAT is a crime. I command we raise the bar a little higher and pop the pressure we have all put on ourselves to be further along down the road than we are on the ride. Patience is not something I have always beenparticularly great at either. Actually, I've had to work really hard at finding it. Even with all that work don't think for a second that it doesn't creep up on me, strangling my breath, and gripping my soul. The roots are there in all of us waiting to sprout at any moment. Yet, I believe we all have a powerful purpose to fulfill. To listen to our inner guidance, not the noise that swirls among the crowds, but a silent knowing that everything is exactly as it should be. There is no place to go and nothing to have but the present moment right here right now. As we want and search for love, meaning and power, I believe the secret is in knowing that we have it all within and maybe just maybe our only goal is to be whole. We can fill our own voids with all kinds of numbing agents like alcohol, shopping, TV, bad relationships, food, gossip and superficial affection, but as I quote Cher Horowitz's' father in the teen comedy classic Clueless: "two permits do not equal a license". (OK maybe it's not a classic, classic but it is classic and it is one in my opinion and personal film collection) In other words, practice a little patience and work on being whole. Only then, can two whole pieces meet, no rescue mission necessary. Just two superheroes, powerful in their own right, joining forces to fight the good fight.
Trick or Treat ;0)