5 Ways to Feel More Self-Love Right Now
Self-love is my jam. Why? Because I haven’t always shown myself the most love that I could and should have. After all, we share what it is that we need to learn the most. Over time, with a lot of self-reflection and a full-time road-trip to self-improvement city, I learned a little thing called self-acceptance and slowly turned away from those unsavory habits (comparison, worrying about what other people thought of me, over spending, over exercising, under-eating and choosing the wrong romantic relationships- which in turn are the right ones because they brought me to the right one -ME- but that’s another post for another day) turning my heart on to the new idea of self-love. Every day is a chance to start over on the path to practicing more self-love. Here are 5 ways to feel more of that inner luuurve right here, right now in this moment.
Cut Out Comparison: Like I mentioned, I was so good at comparing myself to everything and everyone. It started a long long time ago before I was even a teenager. I would compare myself to the actresses and models I’d see on TV or in magazines and even to the other girls I danced with. I always wanted to be ahead of where I was and comparison was always present. Here’s the real truth and I’m sorry it’s nothing new, it’s just a personal practice. Nobody else can be you! Only Oprah can be Oprah. Only Michelle Obama can be the best Michelle Obama. Our only responsibility in this life is to be the best version of ourselves in any given moment. That’s it. Comparison kills all joy! So my sweet, sweet friend stop comparing your beginning to someone else’s middle, your real life to someone else’s social media highlight reel, your body to an airbrushed ideal that some clueless stranger created. Stay on your side of the stage and just live out your best life as the star of your own beautiful, exhilarating and marvelous show!
Nourish Your Body: You know what they say: “you are what you eat” and the real truth is we are all energy. Think about it. How much energy do you think lives in fried, over-processed, greasy, sugary foods? Not much because it’s not real food! Basic rule of thumb: If it didn’t come from the ground or have a mom don’t eat it. If you are veg you substitute how you need to but remember this- organic crap and vegan crap is still that…crap. Junk is junk. Fuel with fresh and clean foods and I guarantee you’ll feel more energy from your pinky toe to your hairline. Furthermore, aim for 3-5 days of physical activity/sweat sessions a week. Exercise has so many feel good benefits like better sleep, improved skin, better sex (hello), improved energy, better memory and a strengthened immune system. Just to name a few.
Positive Affirmations: We all have low moments. That’s a given so don’t beat yourself up when they happen. It’s normal, it’s natural and there is absolutely no shame in it. What we need to do is develop our very own unique toolkit to keep in our back pocket when those moments bubble to the surface. It’s all about training your mind. Think of it like an athlete training a muscle at the gym for their sport. The more they train, the stronger they get and the faster access they have to their physical power when it comes to performing on game day. Write out an affirmation that speaks to you. It can be anything from “I am unstoppable” to “I love me”. You choose. Write it out everyday, put it somewhere that you will always see it, say it to yourself everyday and in a low moment get yourself in front of a mirror, look yourself square in the eyes and repeat it over and over until you feel it in every fiber of your being. It’s gunna feel weird at first because you’re not used to it. But just like that athlete, the more you practice and the more you show up the stronger you will get.
Say NO to Shit You Don’t Love: Listen, as adults we all have certain responsibilities we have to fulfill and things we need to do that we might not love. However, there are a bunch more things that come up that are not in alignment with our values or our goals and let me tell you if you are not feeling it the loving answer is a simple “no”. No explanation, no apology, no FOMO, no shame and no regrets.
Live Your Truth: If climbing the corporate ladder is your thing, great, do it! If it isn’t, great, don’t do it! If marriage feels right in your romantic relationship, amazing, I now pronounce you in love and married! If traveling solo sets your heart on fire, baby, I wish you the safest of wild travels. Here’s the thing, YOU know what YOUR truth is. Follow that. Everyone will have an opinion, those opinions come from their own lack of self-love (tell them to read this blog). Let those opinions go. They will never serve you. Follow your own rhythm. Listen to your gut. You know where you are being called next. Go there. Following that call is the greatest act of self-love. Trust it. Trust your truth and live it out loud!
You are more than worth it!